Earlier this week, I posted a link on my Twitter and Facebook accounts which directed viewers to a Google Form where they could anonymously submit questions. I decided to pick twelve questions that were asked and answer them as best and as honestly as I could.
Q: How do you stay motivated?
A: I stay motivated by living my life on a scheduled reward system. Now that I’m working “grown-up” hours (Monday through Friday on a 9am-5pm basis), I try to be in bed by midnight during the work week. Alarms are key, and during the work week, I try to be up by 6:00 am, go to the gym, eat breakfast, take a shower, and get ready for work. I have push notifications on my iPhone for Asana, which is the app my company uses to assign work, and that annoying buzz reminds me to complete my assignments on time. After completing all of my tasks in a timely manner, I reward myself by going out for drinks with friends during the weekend, or going to some party.
As a broke 22-year-old, I will sometimes pick up weekend shifts at a restaurant in my hometown if I need some extra money. This can also serve as motivation, as during my shifts, I’ll tell myself, “look, if you don’t finish your degree, complete your internship assignments, and get your shit together, you’ll be waiting tables for the rest of your life.”
I don’t personally believe that there’s anything wrong with choosing to serve tables as a life-long career, however, I know my potential goes beyond working in the food industry, and I can’t let it go to waste.
Q: What would you do if you won the lottery?
A: Honestly, the first thing I would do is pay my parents back for helping me get through college. Then I would try to find an underprivileged youth who wants to go to college and help fund their education. After that, I would like to buy myself a nice boat and travel the world with a few of my closest friends. I’m not sure what I’d do with the rest of the money, but I’d consider investing a portion of it and watching it grow. I also do want to be charitable with it, as it’d be a shame to keep $100 million all to myself.
Q: When a guy has genuine feelings for a girl, why is it so hard for him to tell her? When girls admit their feelings first, sometimes guys run the opposite direction, even if they feel the same way toward her.
A: I honestly wish I understood this as well, and I wish I could explain why. I dated a guy who was emotionally distant, and I would always express how much I love him, only to get very short and simple responses. He assured me he felt the same way, but I never understood why he had trouble expressing his feelings. I guess this could best be explained by the fact that everything changes really quickly and nothing is really set in stone, making it hard to put effort towards a love that isn’t guaranteed.
Q: What inspires you?
A: I am inspired by people who go after what they want, no matter how many obstacles are in their way. I also have mad respect for people who were once in a bad place and are making genuine, conscious efforts to turn their life around. Over the years, there have been people that I’ve had to purge from my life, as I had realized that they were not very goal-oriented and that they were holding me back. The people I do talk with on a regular basis are very hard-working and set on their goals, and they all influence me in one way or another.
Q: Who have you always been in love with?
A: I honestly don’t think I’ve ever been in love. Yeah, I’ve dated people and have loved them, but I am a firm believer in the concept of soulmates, and that you can only be in love with one person throughout the course of your entire life. I also believe that if two people are meant to be together, then they will find their way to each other.
Q: When did you first realize you were queer? And what was your reaction?
A: I realized that I was queer in 11th grade. I had a crush on my classmate, a guy named Dakota. I never really had sexual feelings for Dakota, I just thought he was very cool, cute, and funny, and I wanted to hang out with him all the time. I was raised Catholic in a conservative suburb, so from a young age, I was taught that boys are supposed to like girls, but was also taught age-old cliches such as “it’s what’s inside that counts”. I figured, “if it’s what’s inside that counts, then why does it matter if the person you love is a boy or a girl?”, which is why I’ve never been one to label myself “gay”, “straight” or “bi”.
As far as my reaction to this realization, I initially kept it to myself. I didn’t think anyone would understand. I became more open about it as I left high school and entered college, which is when I stopped giving a fuck about what these white-bread suburb folk think of me.
Q: What is your perfect date?
A: I’m definitely not one for the whole “Netflix and Chill” thing. I’d love to go hiking in a nature preserve with a person of interest, or maybe go to a museum. Theme parks, concerts, and festivals are nice too. I’m also a sucker for fun activities that you can find on Groupon or Livingsocial. I’m not very picky, especially if I’m genuinely interested in you.
Q: What’s your favorite candy?
I am quite fond of Haribo Gummy Bears.
Q: What is your favorite iPhone app?
A: I am certain that a fair portion of my life has been spent alternating between the Apple Music and Twitter apps. Twitter is how I stay aware of what’s going on in the world around me. I follow several news outlets and receive push notifications for their tweets to my phone.
I love Apple Music because I can make playlists, sync music to be played offline and discover new sounds. I listen to music pretty much every where I go.
Q: Why do you think that racial tensions and crimes against minorities by whites have exponentially increased over these past 10 years/have become more prominent?
A: Oh wow. This is a touchy subject. I’m going to try to answer this as well as I can without being offensive.
I personally don’t understand why racial tensions and crimes against minorities have increased. There literally is no logical explanation as to why people of color are painted in a bad light.
Yesterday, I came across a news headline about the parents of the kid who crawled until the gorilla cage at a zoo regarding the father’s criminal history. My first thought was “Okay, well what the fuck does the father’s criminal history have to do with the kid crawling into the cage?”
Anyone who knows me knows that my favorite genre of music is hip-hop, which is why I’m very vocal in my support of the #BlackLivesMatter movement. It’s not fair for people to listen to the political message their favorite artists (Kendrick Lamar, Beyonce, Kanye West, etc.) embed in their songs and to be silent when these issues are brought to light by mass media.
I hope I answered your question well, and I apologize for anything offensive.
Q: Did you know triangles can have an angle sum of 540?
A: I did not. I always thought the angles could only add up to 180. But then again, you could be trolling me.
Q: What is love to you?
A: Okay, this one was probably the most complicated question I received. Everyone has their own views on what love is, and I personally believe that love is more of a feeling than it is a choice. I think people make the choice to provide for someone because they have those feelings of love for them.
Love exists in many different forms, but to me, it’s all about seeing the good in someone and looking past their shortcomings, while consciously making an effort to improve your own.
Both parties need to make an equal effort to be the best versions of themselves in order for the love they share to last.
I thoroughly enjoyed answering all of your questions, and would love to continue doing so on a weekly basis. If you would like a question answered next week, submit it here.