About a year ago, one of my friends shared an article from Total Sorority Move called “My Parents Pay for Everything and I’m Not Ashamed of It.” Since reading it, I have felt compelled to write a response to it, however, I am just now getting around to it. The original article can be read here.
I’m not one to bash anybody for how they live their life, but I’ve never understood how anybody over the age of 18 can be comfortable spending their parents’ money. Now, I’m not going to act holier-than-thou, nor am I going to discredit my parents and say that they don’t pay for literally anything. They have been paying my tuition throughout the course of my college career and I appreciate everything they’ve done for me to stay in school. However, I am responsible for paying my own rent, bills, and buying myself clothes and food.
I’m not going to lie; balancing school with working enough hours to support myself can be pretty exhausting, but I will be well-prepared once I enter the real world.
Because I’ve been working throughout college, I’ve learned and acquired skills essential for professional environments. For example, I’ve learned how to handle money, communicate with people, and manage time. I’ve worked some miserable jobs, but because of the skills I’ve obtained over the years, I’ve been able to land internships in the fields that I’m most interested in working in.
I have a few opportunities lined up for when I graduate, and I don’t think I would’ve secured them had I not worked my way towards them.
Admittedly, I am somewhat jealous of those whose parents pay for everything. It must be nice to be able to go on an extravagant spring break vacation, or to be able to go to a party without the worry of having to go to work the next morning.
I was able to fund trips to New York City, Austin, Los Angeles, and Denver throughout the course of these past six months. Granted, I did have to cut back on hotels and stay with friends, family, and in some cases, strangers, but being able to fund travels out of my own pocket was very rewarding. Plus, I’ve gained experience that I will never forget.
When I have kids, I hope my spouse and I are able to pay for them to go to school, however, I do plan on mirroring some of my parents methods by having them work to pay for what they want, (i.e. phones, clothes, etc.)
I didn’t have a rough life growing up. I grew up in a comfortable, suburban environment, and I was raised by two college-educated parents. They moved to Plano before my oldest brother was born, knowing that we would all have better opportunities there, as opposed to their hometown.
My parents consistently emphasized the importance of good work ethic and essential life skills. At the time, I did find it a bit much, but it had a positive effect on me overall. For example, I can cook for myself and my roommates, I tend to maintain a clean room, and I am capable of carefully budgeting my money.
I am appreciative of the fact that my parents didn’t baby me. I am glad that they’ve given me room to make mistakes, learn from them, and grow as a person, as opposed to using money to solve everything.
For those of you reading this who are fortunate enough to have your parents pay for everything, I advise you to study hard. If you don’t have to work through school, you have no excuse not to be doing well in your classes. Also, remind your parents how much you love and appreciate them, because there will come a point where they stop handing you money.